So, Smoochy’s been pissing me off lately. He’s never been a pitch in and help around the house kind of fella, and I am starting to resent this.
Yes, he’ll wash the dishes. If I
nag ask. Yes, he’ll sweep/mop the floor. If I nag ask. Yes, he’ll vacuum the floor. If I nag ask. Okay, you see the pattern. Anyhoo, I’m tired of asking. When we were first marrried, we divvied up the chores in an equitable manner. One of us would cook, the other would wash the dishes. Of course, I always cook, he rarely washes the dishes within oh, 72 hours. He was to clean one bathroom, I’d hit the other, etc. etc.
Well, the man is just on his own time schedule. And it’s not one I’m comfortable with. he will clean, just not regularly, or when needed. Dishes are washed 3 days later. The floor is swept infrequently, and mopped less than that. WhenI get really pissed – about once a week, I’ll just do it myself because I don’t live in dirt. I’ve asked. I’ve pleaded. Yes, Nerd Girl has even cried. And to no avail. I am seriously considering going on strike. Excep that I can’t live in the filth that would start to accumulate before he even realized that I wasn’t doing anything. And then he’d just say “well, why didn’t you ask me to help?” Umm dude, I’ve been asking for 8.5 years – but who’s counting.
I have one child. I had no intentions of trying to simultaneouly raise a 3 year old and a 35 year old.
So, I’m thinking of striking. But, even as I type this, it sounds horribly immature. The stike would go a little something like this: no cooking for Smoochy, no laundry done for Smoochy. Umm, that’s really all I have. Everything else that’s done is communal and benefits us all. I really don’t think a strike would be effective at all!
Any suggestions? Tips? Hints? Have ya’ll gone through this in your relationships? Did it get better? Worse? Did you just give in and do it all? Or, are you the “Smoochy” in your relationship? If so, do you ever help? What prompts your finally giving in and lending a hand? Thanks in advance for any help/words of wisdom/bail money you can provide.