The Answers…

From Kim: What made you start blogging? Do you enjoy it?  Well Kim, I started blogging when I was pregnant with Lovegirl.  At the time I just wanted to chronicle my pregnancy and experiences as a new mother.  I can’t even remember where that blog was hosted now…

I do enjoy it.  I still think of my blog primarily as a journal that I just happen to let other people read and comment on.  I’m not as open here as sometimes I would like to be and have considered starting a private blog for my eyes only.

From Pserendipity:  Why do you love Pserendipity so? Wouldn’t you agree that among friends, she’s the BEST FLIPPIN’ THING since sliced bread? On a scale of 1-10, isn’t she, like, an 11?

I need new friends.  Must be willing to relocate to the Jackson, MS metro area.  Needs to possess a great sense of humor, have a kind heart, and be mother to my favorite Aidan ever!  Preferred but not mandatory:  willingness to dispense free legal advice on occasion.  Aw hell, I’ll keep the P I have for as long as I have her!

Yes Psonya with a P.  You are definitely an 11.

From TIH:  I need you to blog about how the dude in your office felt comfy enough to ask you to sew on a damn button???????????  Hell, I don’t know.  I was walking down the hall and he called out “Hey, Nerd Girl!  You’re a female, can you sew this button on for me.”  I just said “nope” and kept it moving.  I obviously need to work on my mean-mug ’cause these people are getting out of control!

From AR Gal:

Do you think AR Gal will start blogging again? Selfish ain’t I making this about me. Tough tidy.  Nah, not really.  I think AR Gal is content to bring humor to the masses  through her oh-so-witty comments, gifs, and Facebook updates.  If we could convince her to join Twitter then life as we know it would be damn near perfect!

Why has everyone lost their blogging mojo? (Personally, I blame FB, life demands and the fact that folks have been blogging for so long. We’s ty-red!)  I blame FB, Twitter, and the even keel that everyone’s lives seem to be on right now.  No dating drama, no wedding preparations, no crazy husbands, no bosses to bitch about…everybody seems happy just handling and living day-to-day life.  Maybe P and I can start some fake blog beef and shake things up…

Why do people STILL say lookded, likeded, skinded?  As long as there are places named Toad Suck, Arkansas; Possumneck, Mississippi; and Blue Goose, Tennessee; people will say lookded, likeded, and skinded!

What is LG currently doing?  Besides driving me crazy?  Having the best time of her life!  Navigating first grade, expanding her musical horizons (she’s loving EWF and Bruno Mars!), joining Girl Scouts, consuming copious amounts of nachos at JSU football games, and misinterpreting the Bible. 

What are you currently doing?  Wondering how people with more than one child do it.  Trying to clean my dadgum house up.  Contemplating giving up poultry.  Hoarding nail polish.  Thinking this world really is going to hell in a handbasket.

Do you want to be doing what you are currently doing? If not, what would you like to be doing?  On a professional level – I’m good.  I need to go back to school and get my PhD, but haven’t fully committed myself to it.  Personally – I need to widen my social circle.  Not really sure how to do this since most people work my nerves…

Have you ever drank Ripple? (I haven’t but would like to try it)  No ma’am I have not.  Unless it is one of the secret ingredients in Q Punch.  In that case, I may have sampled some a decade or two ago!  If we ever meet up, I’ll bring the Ripple, you bring the plastic cups!

What hair removal technique to you prefer? Nair, razor, wax, nothing, other?  Razors.

What’s your favorite type of juice?  Gin and.  I kid.  I’m partial to orange juice.  Of course, I’m highly allergic to it and break out whenever I drink it, but that doesn’t stop me from chugging a glass or three a few times a year.

Records or mp3′s?  MP3s.  I’m scared of records.  But that’s mostly because I remember the arse whipping my brother got when he used my dad’s expensive needle to play DJ in the mid-80s.

From Simply B:

Any plans to cut your locs?  Nope, not in the foreseeable future!  I do think that they’re about as long as I want them, so I think I’ll probably keep them trimmed to the length they are now.  Did I ever tell y’all the loctician wants $90 to dye them???

Who is your favorite housewife from each of the seasons?  I’ve really let most of the Housewives go.  I watched a few episodes of BH, but just felt so bad for Taylor I stopped.  I guess I’ll watch ATL when it starts back up.  All the BH chicks work my nerves, but I guess I’d probably pick Kyle as my favorite.  Used to be Adrienne, but watching her and Paul fall apart…I just can’t with her any longer.  My favorite ATL housewife is Khandi.

What do you think about Christians drinking likka?  Not that my opinion matters…but you know I have one :)  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with indulging in a nip or two.  The Bible warns against being sloppy drunk and losing control.  Everything in moderation.

Were (Are) you Troy Davis?  From the little I heard/read I think he probably should’ve been granted a new trial.  I’m generally against the death penalty.  Too much uncertainty.  And it doesn’t seem to be meted out fairly.  I cannot fathom how Charles Manson and all those folks are still alive and others, well, aren’t.

Do you wish Smoochy was home more often?  Hmmm.  Yes and no.  I like my space so for my own selfish purposes I’m cool with things the way they are now.  However, I also wish he were here for the day-to-day.  I often feel like I’m filling him in on “our” lives and that he’s not as much as part of them as he should be.  He’s actually home most Tuesdays and Thursdays – but it’s while Lovegirl and I are at school/work.  If he were here when we are on those days, I think it’d be ideal.

Is there ever an instance were divorce is an option for you?  Never say never.  But I firmly believe that most divorces occur because of hardened hearts.  I do my best to keep my heart soft.

Have things gotten better with bro and sis in law?  Sigh.  Not really.

What do you use to clean up nail polish that went over the lines?  I paint my nails at night, so I clean any mistakes up in the shower the next morning – the warm water helps the polish peel right off the skin.

Now that you’ve completed the 100 push up challenge are there any plans to shoot for 200? 150? 101? (LOL)  Heck no!  I am doing the 200 squat challenge though!

Can you extend the deadline for Malcolm X?  Sure – I’ve only made it to page 100 72.  When are you thinking?

Are you happy with your new position. Can we get an update?  I am happy with my new position – thanks for asking.  A lot of my work is done in phases, so I’m at a bit of a lull right now, and waiting for things to pick back up.  I do miss the students and hope to be able to work with them again at some point down the road.  I work with them a bit now, but nothing substantial.

Is there a blogger you’ve stopped reading or blocked?  Not that I can think of.  If they’re still blogging, I’m still reading.

Have you ever eaten stewed chicken?  If I have, I didn’t know it.  Wet chicken doesn’t sound appealing to me.  It’s probably delicious though…you?

From Sayitlikethis:

What’s your theme song?  I don’t have one.  Maybe I’ll commission someone to write a song for and about me!  My happy song is 3 Little Birds by Bob Marley.  My angry black woman song is Move by Ludacris.  The song that will always get me on the dance floor is Got To Give It Up by Marvin Gaye.  The gospel song that always makes me cry is I Understand by Smokie Norful.

Do you use Seche Vite top coat when you polish? If so, do you like it?  Yes and yes!  Love the stuff.  I have noticed it pulls a little at the base, but that doesn’t stop me from using it – makes my manicures and pedicures quick and painless.  And they last forever!

How did you start your locs? Do you maintain them yourself or get them professionally done?  I had a lady start and maintain them for me for about a year – once they locked up I started doing them myself.  Every once in a while (annually?) I get tired of doing them and will have them done professionally.  Then I get pissed that I just spent good money for a service I could’ve done myself and I’m good for another year :)

Thank y’all for playing along – I had fun!  Have a great weekend!!!

Happy Monday!

Y’all, I’m is tired!  We had a whirlwind of a weekend Saturday.

Lovegirl and I got up at the crack of dawn to get her to choir rehearsal by 9.  Only to find that they’d moved rehearsal from the church out South to the one out North.  A 25 minute drive turned into an hour long tour of the city.  Grrrr.

After choir rehearsal we headed to Wellsfest which is, in my opinion, one of the best little family festivals our city has.  Free admission, pretty good music and a bunch of things for the kids to do.  Lovegirl, as usual, spent most of her time in the giant sand pile.

After Wellsfest, we headed home to wash up, change clothes and head to the tailgate.  We partied before the game, watched the game (JSU lost to Alabama State), and then started the party up all over again after the game.  I may not frequent the club, but I can get down in a stadium parking lot!  In the middle of all of this, my oldest brother rolled through with one of his frat brothers, hung out with us at the game, spent the night and then rolled out Sunday morning.

Sunday morning we headed to church, Lovegirl sang (and cried), and then I headed home to see the elusive neighborhood alligator (missed him!) while Smoochy and Lovegirl visited family.  Y’all already know while they were gone – I took a nap!

That was pretty much it.  How was your weekend?

Oh, before you go I have a question about Facebook.  Is there a way to change my settings or whatever so I see things in order?  My timeline is all over the place.  “X happened 5 minutes ago, X posted 35 hours ago, X just happened.”  Is this how it’s supposed to be?  Is that little scrolling bar on the right the only way I can see stuff in real time?  I’m confused.

Always a hit! I wish we'd built her a sandbox when she was younger...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

My peeps believe in pop-up visits! It was great to see him :)

 

 

 

Mean A** Mean People

I have not been in the greatest of moods this week.  From the Personhood Amendment to the pending execution of Troy Davis to national and office politics, I’m just through.  Everybody has their own agenda and just seem hell bent on making the lives of other people miserable so they can feel good or be right.

I’m sick of all of it.  I wonder why we can’t just be nicer to each other.  You know what being nice costs you?  Absolutely nothing.  Smile at somebody.  Open a door for someone.  Work together for the common good.  Walk away from a silly squabble.  Just move the hell on.

My mom always tells me that she and I have similar personalities – that we’re essentially Pollyanas who want everything to be alright for everybody.  And that’s true.  I just don’t understand a whole of bickering, fussing, fighting, squabbling.  To me, that’s no way to live.  I understand that people deal with conflict differently, but honestly 99% of the time I’m going to just walk away.  Unless there’s a physical threat to me or my family, whatever the conflict is, pretty much isn’t worth it.  I don’t care about looking soft, weak, or whatever.  I guess I don’t have enough of a rep to worry about protecting it.  Being a 40 year old bully just isn’t a good look.

I don’t know.  My spirit is hurt.  I’m tired.  I wish people were nicer.

Personhood

Have you heard about the personhood movement?  Basically anti-abortionists are moving to change state constitutions to redefine “personhood” so that any fertilized egg – regardless of when/how/where the egg was fertilized is considered a person with rights under the law.  And Mississippi will apparently have this measure on the ballot in November.

I am well aware of the old adage that it is not polite to discuss politics or religion.  I’m about to discuss both.

It really pisses me off when people decide they want to legally mandate what a woman can and cannot do with her body as it relates to reproduction.  Particularly when they are not going to provide any assistance or resources one way or the other.

Let’s take 17 year old Nerd Girl for example.  I was raped by someone (dude was never caught) my sophomore year of college.  Now, I’ve thanked God many, many, many times over that I did not contract any diseases or become pregnant as a result.  But what if I had gotten pregnant?

If I’d kept the baby – as the personhood people would like to mandate – I would’ve been a 17 year old, uneducated, black, single mother.  I am hard pressed to believe that any of the people lobbying so hard against abortion would’ve opened their arms, hearts and homes to adopt the child they demand I not abort. I also find it hard to believe that they would’ve provided me with any of the resources necessary to raise a child.  Because you know, don’t have the baby if you can’t feed the baby.

I’m a Christian.  And I can’t say for sure what I would’ve done had I found myself pregnant, but I’m almost certain I would’ve terminated the pregnancy.  And I’m pretty sure God would’ve forgiven me.

I know that this will be presented to voters as anti-abortion legislation.  And that will appeal to the majority of voters in this conservative, primarily Republican state.  But.  What many people don’t realize (and yes, I’m going to find a way to actively campaign against this measure) is that the consequences will reach far beyond a woman’s ability to “just” have an abortion at will.  Ectopic pregnancy?  Too bad.  That’s a person in your fallopian tube – you cannot terminate.  And yeah, untreated ectopic pregnancies can lead to maternal death.  Infertile?  Too bad.  IVFs would most likely not be done anymore because destroying any embryos that weren’t implanted or selectively reducing the embryos would be considered murder.  11 year old girl molested and pregnant?  Too bad.  The scenarios go on and on.

This kind of stuff is just bullshit to me.  Pardon my french.  These people claim to want smaller government.  They say that government is too big and has too much authority.  Yet they want to climb all up in women’s uteruses (uteri, I think) and legislate that most personal of space.  Get the hell out.  Literally and figuratively.

I’m not really sure what I can do within the confines of my job – as a state employee who works in bioethics – but I just cannot keep silent on this one.

Tell Me Who’s Your Housekeeper And What You Keep In Your House

Alright y’all – in my never ending quest to organize my house – and presumably my life – I’m going to be doing a little (a lot?) of rearranging over the course of the next few weeks (months).  So, I’ve got questions.  Y’all got answers, right? Answer as many – or as few – as you like!  Let’s begin…

  • Do you have a pantry?
  • Do you keep your food – snacks, spaghetti, cereal, etc. – in original packaging or do you transfer into storage containers?  If you transfer, what type(s) of containers do you use?
  • How many of your kitchen cabinets are dedicated to everyday dishes?
  • Where do you store your special occasion dishes, servers, etc.?
  • How many extra sets of bedding do you have?
  • Do you save any of your child(s) schoolwork/drawings/etc?  How do you store it?
  • How do you store your shoes?
  • How do you store your jewelry?
  • On a scale of 1-5 how organized would you say your home is?  Are you happy with that number?
  • Any storage/organizing tips you want to share with the class?

Thanks y’all!

Weekend in Review

We spent most of the weekend preparing for Lovegirl’s birthday party, enjoying the birthday party, and recovering from yes, the birthday party.

Friday night LG and I went out to a new Thai/Japanese fusion restaurant.  The food was good, but I think they’re confused on the meaning of the word “fusion.”  Just because you serve two types of cuisine does not mean you’re a fusion restaurant.  Lovegirl ordered hibachi chicken and I had Basil Shrimp.  Tasty!  I really wanted a bowl of Tom kha gai (chicken/coconut milk soup), but I’m determined not to eat the same thing every time I have Thai food.

We had her party Saturday at the Y’s pool and I’ve got to say, I’m glad we did.  There was room for everybody – from her classmates, to the neighbors, to the friends and family that came.  I honestly have no idea how many kids were there – 16 I think?  Not to mention the two kids that just wanted to swim and ended up joining the party for a while.  Two of her classmates brought younger siblings which was cool and two of the mothers got in the pool.  I was not in that number.  I don’t know why it didn’t occur to me to get in the pool.  Oh well.

I mentioned on the Twitter that I was slightly annoyed because some relatives didn’t bring LG a present.  Not because she needs or wants anything – it’s just the principle.  If I showed up to one of their kids’ parties empty handed we’d never hear the end of it.  Not to mention my SIL’s need to tell me the cake was too sweet. o_O.

Sunday I got up and went to early morning service by myself.  I really enjoyed it.  Not at all crowded and the pastor is doing an awesome series on establishing a deeper relationship with God.

Sunday afternoon I watched football (my Steelers got SPANKED!), tennis (Serena got SPANKED!), and worked on the dry, tangled mass that was Lovegirl’s hair.

And here we are back at Monday!  How was your weekend?

It took a looooong time for her to eat all that rice with those chopsticks. A loooooong time!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The best picture of her I got at her party!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sharp as a tack in her outfit from Aidan (and Ms. Psonya). I am shocked that she chose to wear this to school today...not :)

 

I’mma Tell Yo Daddy

Okay, so Lovegirl has been…acting up a little in school.  The kid cannot keep her yapper shut.  She’s had two write ups and one nice-nasty note from the teacher in the last two weeks.  What’s a mama to do?  I’ve talked to her, I’ve punished her  (taken away electronics, revoked television viewing privileges, nixed football game plans), and finally, I spanked her little bottom.

Through all of this Smoochy has remained pretty ghost.  I call him and talk about her behavior.  I tell him we need to present a united front, that discipline is a team effort and that we cannot allow her to act any kind of way. He promises he’s going to discipline her and at the end of the day – I do all the disciplining and he swoops in on the weekends bearing candy and hugs.  Um, no.

So I told on him.  When my father-in-law called yesterday to wish LG a happy birthday I got on the phone and told him that I was having trouble getting Smoochy to get on board the discipline train.  Now my father-in-law is serious about spoiling his grands (3 girls) but he’s equally serious about not having bad ass kids.  He promised that he’d talk to Smoochy and let him know that he’s got to step up to the plate and parent LG fully – not just be warm, cuddly, treat-bearing daddy.  Yay!

I could say I feel bad about telling on Smoochy, but I don’t.  I need some help getting through to my husband.  My father-in-law will definitely get him told.  It takes a village, so I called on an elder.

Have you ever “told” on your spouse/SO before?  Why?  How’d it work out for you?  If you haven’t, would you?

 

Seven

Today is my sweet, sweet girl’s seventh birthday.  It is amazing to me how quickly these last few years have flown by.  Watching Lovegirl grow from a chubby, helpless baby who was particularly skilled at giving side-eye into a hilarious kid who loves to talk, dance, talk, sing, and talk has been one of the greatest blessings of my life.

Smoochy and I often talk about how Lovegirl is my entire family wrapped up in one not-so-little-anymore girl.  She’s smart as a whip (my Dad), the life of the party (my Mom), social as hell (Brother #1), relatively fearless (Brother #2), and sensitive (Brother #3).

She’s definitely a daddy’s girl and has that big ol’ man of mine wrapped around all of her fingers, not just her pinky.

She cracks me up on an almost daily basis and loves me fiercely while somehow managing to challenge nearly everything I say.  We’re working on that…

We are so glad that God chose us to be Lovegirl’s parents and we look forward to the great things He has in store for her.

Happy Birthday Sweet-peet!  We love you more than you’ll ever know!

That was then…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This is now!

Ten on Tuesday

  • Brrrrrr…..it’s cold out here.  Even though I feel like an old person when I discuss the weather, I’m going to do it anyway.  It is downright chill-ay!  I think it was 58 when I got up this morning and today’s high is only supposed to be in the low 70′s.  Fall?  Yes, please!
  • Tropical Storm Lee hit with a slow, slow vengeance.  It rained for 3 days.  I slept for 3 days.  ‘Twas marvelous!  Except for all of the flooding that occurred – we weren’t affected, but I know that others weren’t so fortunate.
  • You know who has no sense of urgency?  An almost 7 year old kid.  My child is slow as molasses in February.  S-L-O-W!
  • My hair looks ridiculous.  I guess I should’ve expected to look like S.hirley T.emple since I spent 2 days with pipe cleaner curlers in my head.
  • Speaking of pipe cleaners, I am shocked at how many people don’t know what they are.  People are forever asking me what I curl my hair with.  When I tell them pipe cleaners, a blank look takes over their face.  You wouldn’t believe how many times in a week I find myself saying “you know, the little fuzzy things that children do crafts with in Sunday School…they make little bug antennas with them…they come in lots of colors, about yea long….no?”
  • Did anybody watch the game last night (Miami v. Maryland)?  Maryland truly has some of the ugliest uniforms I’ve seen in a long time.  On the other hand, I love the Oregon’s uniforms – hot!
  • Who’s watching RHOBH this season?  I wasn’t going to, but tuned in last night anyway.  Well, I’d pretty much made up my mind to skip the madness, but then I saw the previews for the rest of the season.  I’m in!
  • In case you don’t know – I did one hundred mother freaking pushups yesterday!  One hunnit!  And I still have 5 more pushup workouts to go…
  • I made shepherd’s pie Sunday from a recipe I got at Jameil’s spot.  Smoochy loved it.  Lovegirl liked it.  Until she realized those were mashed potatoes on top.  She “doesn’t do” mashed potatoes.  I still haven’t had it, but it looks/smells good.  I’ll try it tonight.
  • Smoochy was supposed to spank Lovegirl when he made it home this weekend.   He said he’d been talking himself up for two days trying to get his mind right to spank her and that he’d decided he was going to just close his eyes and swing because he couldn’t bear to look. Totally didn’t happen.  I.am.shocked.  #whodidimarry

Have a great day!!  Peace and blessings all around!