*before you click to enlarge the pic, please know it contains foul language*
The other day I got a FB notification that I’d been tagged in a photo. So of course I headed over to no man’s land to see what old picture one of my relatives had dug up and put out there for the world to see (and mock). But nope, there were no pics of me with a bad afro, or rocking my Sally Jessy Raphael red glasses.
Instead, I’d been tagged in the above photo. A poster or something which details the differences between black and white parents. Or so it claims. I promptly untagged myself.
See…I’m not that black parent. Sure, I’ve thought variations of some of the above sayings, but I’d never talk like that to my kid. I know, I know, she’s only 7 and when she hits 14 (13? 12? 8?) and
starts acting a fool takes acting a fool to a whole ‘nother level I might have to eat those words. But I seriously doubt it.
And I promise I’m not trying to sound like some full of myself, holier than thou parent, but my child is a gift from God. And there is no way I would deliberately and consistently talk to my gift like that. I believe I’ve said it on here before – as I raise LG I try (key word is try) to show her the same love and mercy that God shows me as He raises me.
I called my friend and asked why she tagged me in that foolishness. She basically said that’s the old school way of raising kids and that more parents need to get back to that because “these kids” are running wild. I told her that old school isn’t always the best school (unless we’re talking music, but I digress) and that some stuff should be left behind – talking unnecessarily crazy to children is one of them. I’ve been black my whole life – my parents didn’t talk to me like that, I won’t talk to LG like that, and hopefully LG will not talk to any child(ren) she may have (when she’s about 42) like that.
Children need boundaries, they need to know what type of behavior is expected and what behaviors won’t be tolerated. But surely there’s a better way to get the message across than the “black” methods above.