As you may know, last Monday was Lovegirl’s 4th birthday. We officially celebrated on Saturday with a small party at the other House of Mouse – Chuck E. Cheese’s. I think – and hope – that a good time was had by all. I know that Lovegirl had a great time – she’s quite the party girl you know.
You may not know – and how would you – that on Saturday morning I did something I never thought I’d do again. I took someone to the clinic to have an abortion performed. I did it twice in college (took someone, not had one) and just thought those days were behind me. After all, we’re grown women. Married, in committed relationships, etc., etc., etc . . . .
My feelings about abortion are conflicted. I don’t think that I could ever have one. I say think because I’ve never been in a situation where I had to even remotely contemplate what I would do with a pregnancy. I think abortion is wrong. However, I understand why lots of women choose to have them and I don’t condemn their choice. As far as I’m concerned that is between them, their consciences and God. I do not believe that Roe v. Wade should be overturned.
The person I took had already made up their mind to have the procedure and she needed a ride. The father was against the procedure, didn’t want her to have it, she didn’t want to deal with the emotions of him going with her. She didn’t want her business all out in the streets, so I’m the only other person she told. She asked for a ride and I told her I’d give her one.
So, OG (ole girl) made it to my house around 6:15 Saturday morning and off to the clinic we headed. Did I mention that I had my child in the car? Smoochy hadn’t made it home, so I just told Lovegirl that we were taking OG to the doctor and left it at that. Which would’ve been fine, had there not been protesters outside the clinic. How I managed to forget about them, I don’t know, but I did. I’ve got to say, as far as protesters go, they were a pretty mild bunch – as middle and upper class protesters are wont to be. They yelled and chanted at me as I went in to sign that I’d be back to pick OG up. They yelled and chanted at OG and Lovegirl as they waited in the car, and they yelled and chanted at OG as she walked inside. Alone. To have an abortion.
Lovegirl and I headed to the house to clean up, chill out, and play before her 2:30 party. OG was to call me to pick her up when she was done. Phone rang around 11, and back to the clinic we headed. About halfway there Lovegirl says “Mama, I don’t think those people were happy with OG. They asked her if she would kill me if I was two.” Well hot damn. I knew my kid was observant and listens to everything, but somehow I’d fooled myself into thinking that she would not hear/pay attention to anything that early in the morning. I was wrong and felt like crap on a stick – those are not the types of thoughts I want floating around in her head at the ripe old age of 4. I told her that she probably didn’t hear them right and I didn’t think they were mad at OG at all. I think (hope) she bought it. And then I called my sister-in-law to see if she’d keep Lovegirl for a hot second. She agreed. I called OG to see if the protesters were still there. They weren’t. I called sis-in-law and told her never mind, but thanks.
Picked OG up, headed back to the house. What made either one of us think she’d be able to drive home that soon I don’t know. I called Smoochy – who still hadn’t made it home – and told him that OG would be in the guest room sleep. I insisted that OG lay down. She was still sleep when we left for Lovegirl’s party. She woke up and left shortly thereafter. Sent me a text message to let me know she’d made it home safely.
I was mentally spent. But, still had a birthday to celebrate. So on we partied. Celebrating one life while another would never be realized.
If you have something to say about abortion – pro or con, any experiences you may have had, what you think will happen when the new regime occupies the White House, etc., etc., – please feel free to leave a comment, anon if you like. If you’re going to be ignit, don’t bother. I don’t think any of my readers are, but just in case a newbie makes his/her way here . . . consider yourself forewarned.