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My friend (the one whose baby is in the PICU) called me at work this morning and asked me if I could meet her for breakfast, she needed to talk. Well, sure I could because I’m that type of girl. I grab my purse and head downstairs. I said a little prayer on my way down the stairs – I try to do that anytime I think someone’s going to ask my opinion. I try to give good, Godly advice. Seriously.
Anyhoo, basically she was feeling bad about the decision she’d made to tell her older daughter (4 yrs old) that her baby sister was in the hospital. For the last week or so she’d been telling the older girl that the baby was off visiting relatives. Well, last night, she decided she was tired of lying, tired of evading her daughter’s questions and so, she told the girl the 4 year old version of the truth – her sister was sick, was in the hospital so that the doctors and nurses could help her feel better and that they were praying the baby would be home soon.
My friend’s older sister and mother do not agree with her decision. And have made it very obvious through yelling, cursing, and sending text messages calling her “dumb” and “selfish” among other things. She asked me if I thought she made the right decision, what did I think?
So I told her. I told her that as parents we make the best decisions we know to make. I told her that if she were comfortable with her decision then it was the right one. That we can’t live our lives trying to guess and do what other people would have us do. That her sister and mom (both of whom I love dearly) can postulate on what they would do all they want, but the reality is that she is the one with a daughter in the PICU and one at the house, not them. I also told her that I happened to agree with the decision that she’d made, but that even if I didn’t I would still advise her to make her decisions based on what’s in her heart and live with the decisions she makes for herself and her girls.
What would you have done if you were in her situation? Would you have told the four year old the truth? Would you have concocted some sort of story as to where the baby was? Enquiring mind wants to know. Thanks!
**Thank you all for your prayers for Baby K. Please don’t stop. She seems to be doing well, they’re weaning her off anesthesia and her oxygen. When I went to see her yesterday she opened her eyes for quite a while and is responding to voices. So she’s doing much, much better. God’s grace is sufficient.**