So, this morning on the way to school Lovegirl was lamenting her only child status and said “I don’t never have nobody to play with on the weekends!” (Grammar lesson to follow – no worries)
Being the kind hearted Mama that I am I decided to text my sister-in-law and ask her if her youngest girl K could spend the night. K is 4 as is Lovegirl. She texted back “both A and K are available. What time would you like them? When it comes to family, they are a package deal.” Um, okay. A is 9. I love them both dearly, but when I think about playmates for Lovegirl, my mind automatically goes to K. I texted back “cool, how about 6?”
I only have one child – and hope to keep it that way. So of course, I’m used to making arrangements for one child and don’t have any other children to consider the feelings of. I asked a few work friends with more than one if they had similar rules – were their children package deals? One was like “nope. If somebody wants one, they can have one. If they want both, that’s cool too.” Her children are 1 and 4. The other one said “of course you get both. That’s only fair. Think about how the other one would feel.” Her children are 11, 7 and 4.
I honestly didn’t think about how the other one would feel. I am one of four. We were raised not to expect something just because another one of us got something. And that’s how we rolled. And I pretty much agree with that. Not where one kid can pick out a toy at the store and the other 3 can’t, but just because one got a new pair of shoes, we didn’t all get a pair of shoes. You know? I wasn’t trying to be inconsiderate or anything, it just didn’t occur to me to invite both.
Anyhow, I’ve been pondering this for a while and would now like to hear what you say. Welcome to my first poll! Feel free to leave any additional remarks in the comments section.
Muchas gracias – have a great weekend!