Alright dear readers – I’d like your input. It’s time for another WWYD. Thank you in advance.
One of my siblings – okay fine, one of my brothers (as I have no sisters) – is in a bad spot financially.
He needed some cash two months ago and another brother and I gave it to him. We asked him if he was good, and he was like yeah, I just paid my car off, so I’ve got “extra” blah, blah, blah. We asked him if he was sure? He said yes.
Other brother and I discussed whether or not we should just send the dude some money every month to help him out for a bit. We decided not to. A major factor in our decision was the fact that dude repeatedly said he was good. He also seemed kinda pissed that he had to ask for the money in the first place, if that makes sense?
So you already know what’s up right? Dude needs some $$$. I don’t have it (the total amount needed) to give this month and my other brother has it, but is kinda pissed. He said he’d rather give dude a set amount every month than have these panicked phone calls every few months. And he thinks we may be preventing dude from “manning up” by helping him out.
So, we’re trying to decide what to do. Oh, dude swore the initial money would be repaid. It hasn’t been. (But that wasn’t a factor in giving it to him – I don’t “loan” what I can’t afford to give away)
My solution is a mix of giving him the money, sending him an “allowance” every month until the end of 2010 and sending care packages. Yeah, I know – y’all didn’t know Nerd Girl was such a softie. 🙂 Serious business – I love my brothers dearly and will help them in any way I can.
The other brother doesn’t mind helping but doesn’t want to cripple dude with too much help. He thinks we should help him again and then cut him loose.
So…..what would you do? One of the above scenarios or something totally different? Thanks!
***Editing to add: it is for a necessity, nothing frivolous, it is for less than $500 and I don’t want to give his age as that would pinpoint which of my brothers it is (not that y’all know any of them, but still….)