Okay, so Lovegirl has been…acting up a little in school. The kid cannot keep her yapper shut. She’s had two write ups and one nice-nasty note from the teacher in the last two weeks. What’s a mama to do? I’ve talked to her, I’ve punished her (taken away electronics, revoked television viewing privileges, nixed football game plans), and finally, I spanked her little bottom.
Through all of this Smoochy has remained pretty ghost. I call him and talk about her behavior. I tell him we need to present a united front, that discipline is a team effort and that we cannot allow her to act any kind of way. He promises he’s going to discipline her and at the end of the day – I do all the disciplining and he swoops in on the weekends bearing candy and hugs. Um, no.
So I told on him. When my father-in-law called yesterday to wish LG a happy birthday I got on the phone and told him that I was having trouble getting Smoochy to get on board the discipline train. Now my father-in-law is serious about spoiling his grands (3 girls) but he’s equally serious about not having bad ass kids. He promised that he’d talk to Smoochy and let him know that he’s got to step up to the plate and parent LG fully – not just be warm, cuddly, treat-bearing daddy. Yay!
I could say I feel bad about telling on Smoochy, but I don’t. I need some help getting through to my husband. My father-in-law will definitely get him told. It takes a village, so I called on an elder.
Have you ever “told” on your spouse/SO before? Why? How’d it work out for you? If you haven’t, would you?