I’m not real big on fighting. I believe in walking away. I don’t generally care too much about negative things people say about me. Now, if you threaten me or mine with physical harm, I will come out swinging. But talk? Nah. I realize everyone doesn’t operate that way, and that’s cool. Or is it?
I was watching RHOA Sunday before last and Phaedra’s husband Apollo and Cynthia’s husband Peter almost came to blows because Peter had given an interview in which he said some not so nice things about the other “housewives.” Phaedra wasn’t real thrilled about what Peter said and made some snide remark to him which set off the whole back and forth between Peter and Apollo. Apollo was heated and said something about defending his wife’s honor. And then it was on. Old vs. young. Peter vs. Apollo. Folks vs. baby. Whatever.
I got to thinking about how stupid stuff like this is how a lot of people lose their lives. Somebody says something someone else doesn’t like and the next thing you know, some dude has driven back to the club, sprayed it with bullets and folks are hurt or dead. Because of something someone said. If two old dudes like Peter and Apollo are willing to throw down – at a baby shower no less – over words, how in the world can we ever expect our young men to resolve conflict without violence?
A lot of people were whooping and hollering about how Apollo was absolutely right to defend his wife. I guess. If your wife – a lawyer and aspiring funeral home owner – can’t handle someone saying something nasty about her, y’all have bigger fish to fry.
I don’t want – or need – Smoochy to get into any type of fight over something said about me. People are crazy. Always ready to pull out a gun and start shooting. At the end of the day, I want my husband home, safe with us. If someone calls me a two-bit whore, let ’em. Don’t risk life and limb defending my honor. I’m good.
I’m pretty sure Smoochy would disagree, and some of y’all probably do as well.
So, tell me – where do you stand on this one? Do you want your spouse/SO fighting to defend you from verbal nonsense? Would you prefer he walk away? Have you ever been in a similar situation? What happened?