Saturday night I went to Jackson State to see their production of “The Color Purple.” I must say – musicals are growing on me. The production was really good and I was most pleased with how I’d chosen to spend my Saturday night.
I’d asked a couple of friends if they wanted to go with and no one responded with a “yes.” So I bought my ticket and after bidding Smoochy and LG adieu, I headed over to campus to see what was what. Shortly after a confusing moment or two at the box office window (do better with your process JSU) I was in my seat chillaxing waiting for the show to start. Got a text from one of my friends asking me where I was. Told her. Who are you with? By myself. She responded that she could never go anywhere by herself and didn’t know how I did it.
Let me be the first to admit – I wish someone had decided to go with me. I’d have loved to chat and grab a bite to eat before or after the show. But no one did, so oh well. My mama told me a long time ago that if there was something I wanted to do I should do it – whether anyone else went went me or not. So I do. And I’ve never regretted it. I’m always a bit taken aback when people tell me they refuse to go anywhere by themselves. I get it. But really, I don’t. You only go ’round once – why pass up opportunities that may not present themselves again?
Do you roll solo or is having company an absolute must for you?
Nerd Girl 
As an only child and currently single woman, I am used to being alone. Friday I went to dinner by myself and last night I was at a bar for about 30 minutes all by myself. I don’t mind it one bit.
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Stupid as it may sound, even at the age of 46, I hate having to go solo – unfortunate lack of confidence but I’m working on it
I roll solo most of the time! I like not having to worry about having to leave or not because of someone else’s wishes. When I wanna I wanna!
I ALWAYS find myself in these type of situations because I’m so over the traditional “fun”. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve found a deeper appreciation for culture and art but I don’t have many friends that feel the same. Or, at least I think they don’t so I just don’t ask.
I have no problem going to the movies, to dinner, or even a concert by myself. I don’t like the idea of being dependent on another person to have a good time. I do know a few people who would absolutely not go anywhere alone & shake their heads if they hear of it. To each his own. I scratch my head at this just as hard. If my love is at the Cigar shop watching football with his friends and & I want to see the latest chick flick & one of my friends can’t get a babysitter, it does not keep me at home. Several times at Essence if me & my friends can’t agree on the same concert, I will go to the show I want to see by myself. I just don’t get the big deal.
I used to go out alone all the time – movies, dinner, bar, it’s no biggie to me. I still do if I want to do something and my husband or girlfriends don’t want to roll. I actually enjoy being solo. I’m a big stickler for going to lunch alone too, I’ll go with co-workers once a month if that.
I usually don’t like going out by myself, but the few times that I’ve done it I’ve been pleasently surprised. On travel for work in Albany, I saw that Alvin Ailey was at a nearby theatre, no one wanted to go so I bought one ticket and sat SECOND ROW DEAD CENTER!! Buying a single ticket for some events will sometimes get you a fantastic seat.
I used to not be down with it but as I have gotten older that has definitely changed. I enjoy alone time more and if I have an opportunity to do something but have to do it alone, I am more prone to take it now than before.
As an only child and an introvert, not only do I have no problem doing things by myself, but sometimes I prefer it. I couldn’t imagine not doing something or going somewhere or trying something because someone else wasn’t with me. Anything I do with other people, I have no problem doing by myself. I go to restaurants by myself. I’ll sit at a bar by myself. I’ll travel abroad by myself. I’ll go to the movies by myself. I’ll go to shows or concerts by myself. As a matter of fact, it’s a necessity for me to do things by myself sometimes. I need and crave that alone time. So good for you for doing something you wanted to do, regardless of if anyone else was interested in doing it with you. Otherwise, you would have missed out on a great show!
I think as I get older, I’m more comfortable in my own company. I don’t know that I’m at the point where I’d go to the movies or a show alone yet, but I’ve enjoyed dinner by myself. Now that I have child (ren), I’d love to have moments of solitude.
I don’t mind going solo to some things like a movie, play or dinner. I don’t think I would enjoy going on vacation by myself or a concert. I so rarely get time alone and/or my schedule is so hectic and last minute that if I waited for company for everything, I’d never do anything!
i love having company but I don’t mind going places by myself. It’s no biggie. It’s very rare that I do hang out alone but I don’t mind it.
I would have done the same.
I do most things alone. Most of my friends are married or have kids and have a lot less flexibility. A lot of my friends just aren’t interested in some of the things i am…so I go alone. Do I want company? Heck ya…but one monkey don’t shop the show!
I never understand when people say they don’t go out alone. Life will be over soon if the Mayans were right!
I love going places by myself. Last time I was in NYC I went around the city alone. I saw Caroline or Change, by myself, and I had a wonderful time. I was in the city with a girlfriend and her mom, but they kept shopping and letting museums close. I wanted to experience the city.
Various people stopped me and told me to be careful. I went to D.C. with the same girl and was a little annoyed when she decided we were hanging out and turned my city bus tour of Georgetown into a cab ride and a shoe shopping trip.
I like going places alone, so I can enjoy the experience and follow my own flow.
I LOVE being by myself! Movies, mall, perusing the aisles of Target, dinner, ALL THAT! I’ll vacay alone. I’m my own best friend. It’s a hard habit to break b/c Mister hates being alone. He wants to do everything as a family/couple. There is absolutely nothing I wouldn’t do b/c someone wouldn’t go with me. Oh well jingle bell. It’s their loss.